I’m freaking out because my wife signed me up for this website about sex

Jamie T.

So my wife of just over 5 years freaked me out a couple of weeks ago.

I understand that I’m wrong for feeling freaked out but I couldn’t help it.

First a bit of the back story.

We are in our early thirties and outside of the usual minor, relationship issues, things are really good.

We have sex a couple of times a week and my wife seems to orgasm most of the time.

But she can only do so one way, and I am mostly not more than a prop.

Not that I am lazy, I want to do more but she says she struggles to get off even when she’s alone.

In the past I felt confident knowing that we have a fair amount of sex compared to what I hear from my guy friends…

But then a couple of weeks ago I got the question. She asked me if I would be down to try something called OMGYES.

It’s a site that helps women and partners have more pleasure and intimacy.

I’m in a panic, I don’t panic, never have, and now I am.

I’m trying to act cool, but she can tell something is off.

I cannot collect my thoughts fast enough, I’d never heard of this OMGYES, and here I am blindsided and unprepared.

Despite my shock and discomfort I agree and act as cool as I can.

And count the minutes until The Bear comes on.

I honestly want to do whatever I can to please her, but I was afraid.

If it doesn’t work?

I’m kind of a prude, and the thought of watching what I imagined to be graphic tutorials in front of my wife is daunting. 

So backup, what exactly is OMGYES?

It looks like a legit resource and instantly reassured me for three reasons: The research, the tech, the results.

They partnered with Indiana University School of Medicine and Yale to ask tens of thousands of women about the specific techniques that are pleasurable for them.

The findings are presented on OMGYES.com with videos of regular women telling about each thing from their experience.

The teaching method involves videos, animations and how-tos.

Despite feeling a little nervous (especially about watching graphic content WITH the wife), I’m curious to try it all that out.

What do you get with OMGYES

There are two packages - Essentials ($49) and Essentials + Explore More ($99).

We bought the bigger package because it looks like you get a lot more bang for your buck (sorry, couldn’t help myself).

It contains dozens of modules with names like “Framing,” “Layering,” and “Accenting.”

Each module includes video interviews, diagrams, and tastefully directed demo videos that address various techniques.

The Road Test

On one page, called ‘Consistency’ I learned there’s this stage just before orgasm where it’s really easy for women to lose it - and  three videos of completely different women explain the same frustration - that when they’re close, the guy goes faster or harder to try to make it even better for her - when what she needs is the exact same motion over and over, not changing anything. 

And I found that  varying my technique (oral, manual, or otherwise) as my wife was getting close was making it harder for her  to orgasm.

Why didn’t she ever tell me that?

Because she thought it would hurt my feelings?

That’s what’s cool about OMGYES - the women on the site say things my wife feels but never tells me but watching it together she felt comfortable enough to say “Yes, that’s me!”

Another thing I do that I heard on the site messes up orgasms is asking if she’s “close.”

Apparently that question can kill it.

So new plan thanks to OMGYES is that if she’s ever close, don’t ask questions and keep on doing the exact same motion like a machine.

Same angle, same pressure, same everything.

Kind of a breakthrough for us

Not knowing what is and isn’t working is frustrating.

Now that not only are we trying things that are tried and tested by tens of thousands of women we can waste less time on stimulation that doesn’t work.

And of course, not everything works.

But OMGYES gave me a bunch of backup plans, rhythms I can switch to, compliments I can give, and having all those tools did make ME more confident.

Now that I knew so much more about what my wife was thinking and feeling, I did things differently - it was like I had my finger on the pulse of what she was going through as we did it.

Who’s it for?

I thought I had a pretty good grip on sex and pleasure before OMGYES.

But I didn’t know that there was so much more to try.

And that there were some things I thought worked are total pleasure-killers for my wife.

And the nerves I had about the graphic content were completely unnecessary.

The demonstrations are not raunchy but still warm… My wife said it was kind of like having a friend show you.

It was intimate but not awkward in the slightest.

So I’d say, based on my experience, that every single man who has sex with women should buy OMGYES.